The Ultimate Power Of Pure You, Your First Love

Q: My question is: what is it that I most need to hear?

John: The tiniest little bit that’s never changed. Throughout the decades of your life it’s been a constant, and without realizing it in your mind and in your understanding, it’s also your first love. It is your beloved. What that is, is most delicate okayness. Any time that you’ve turned to it and lived from it, even for a little bit of time, the fountain of goodness returns to your life. 

That tiny little bit, that unconditioned okayness, that tender okayness within, just as is, is your home, and there isn’t anything that you need to do first for you to be that. There isn’t anything for you to change or address for you to be that. The moment you turn to it, you love it. You love it because just by being that tiny little bit, you are being pure you, and you have it without a process, without effort. 

As with anything, it will only have the power that you give it. When you’re not in that most delicate okayness within, that tells you that you’ve been giving your power to the wrong thing and you’re free to turn it around. 

There isn’t anything that prevents you: not your past, not the condition of your self, not your circumstances, and no one else. When you see this for what it really is, you, awareness, have ultimate power.

You live your life from within that tiny, tiny little bit.

Q: Thank you.

The End Of A Relationship: A Good Place To See Each Other Newly

Q: I have a question about my relationship with my girlfriend. For years I’ve felt it is over, yet I’m struggling to bring it to an end.  On one level I feel I could stay in it forever; on other levels I don’t feel it nourishes me. But it breaks my heart because she’s a friend and I care for her. To end the relationship would confront a level of pain in both of us that feels impossible to digest.

John: Instead of ending your relationship, end your relationship with pain and you’ll see her differently. Being at the end of a relationship is a really good place to start seeing, instead of opening into a newness of seeing in your next relationship. 

What starved your relationship of its meaning, slowly bringing the relationship to a close, is the same source as the source of your pain: you living in your self, moving in some way by forms of illusion. 

Q: How can I end this illusion, John?

John: Love seeing through your humanness. Love seeing from your heart instead of seeing from what you think and what you feel, which will easily be through forms of illusion. 

As you trust what you think and trust what you feel, what you’re most easily living by are your beliefs instead of the openness and softness of heart, the opening of your humanness. 

To address your relationship, you can tell her that you’re starting to see, and in beginning to see, you really see how blind you are. Being open to see your blindness disempowers your beliefs. 

When you’re open to see your blindness you begin to really know within what you do really see. You begin to know within your seeing, and the knowing within your seeing matters more to you than seeing. 

You’re not in the wrong relationship. You’re functioning from the inside out incorrectly.

Love seeing, regardless of what you see. Pain in your self tells you where you don’t want to see. Nurture, within your self, because of your openness and softness, shows you where you like to see. 

Q: Thank you.


Your Death: The Last And Greatest Event Of Your Life

Q: How can I deal with the fear of death when thinking about hard decisions?

John: By, in all of your life, intimately and in dearness, carrying your death in your heart. It heals all aversion to death, all fear of death. 

Your death is the last and the greatest event of your life. Your death is deeply important. It’s deeply important that you’re available to it. It’s deeply important that you are really there for whenever you die, and regardless of how you die. That brings your death into your heart where there’s a depth of meaning to your death, instead of you being polarized in your thinking and your feeling concerning your death. 

When your death is kept very close within and very dear within, your perspective in all of life opens and changes. You won’t have an artificial perspective – one that betrays that you avoid dying, one that betrays an underlying belief that you will always live – living and behaving as though you will never die. When you keep your death as a dearness in your heart, there’s nothing of your living, there’s nothing of your presence in your life that you’ll take for granted.

Live with death as a dearness in your heart, and all of your presence in life will be like nurture. You’ll be then naturally relating to a much deeper quality of life within than just being wrapped-up in a personal perspective, wrapped-up in the circumstances of your life. You’ll be all about what you deeply are in your heart in the midst of all of your life, because it’s clear to you that you’re going to die, and you don’t know when. It could be at any time.

So that shifts your posturing in your life. You won’t be all about your self. You won’t be taking your self seriously, because through death all of that is going to end. What you’ll be taking seriously in all of your life is what you really are in your heart.

For you to be in your last-hour deathbed, for you to be quieted within on your deathbed, what will matter to you is not what you’ve done with your life. What will matter to you is not what you’ve done with your self.

What will really matter to you is what you’ve done with your heart.


Living The Truth Of What You Really Are

Q: I love this. I love the quiet. I love the deep. I feel sad that in my life I’ve looked so many places, gone to so many schools and never been told what I’m feeling here. My whole life I’ve been very focused on results. They seem to be an important way for me to evaluate or discern, but from what I’m hearing, there’s an inquiry inside where results don’t count. How can I practise that?

John: What you really are is depth and quality. It isn’t personal and it isn’t individual, so in what you really are there’s no sense at all of a “who.” When you’re being what you really are, there is no “who.”

Who you are doesn’t exist in what you really are. What you really are has no sense of individuality. It has no sense of what you have in your self and in your personality. The sense that you have in your self and in your personality isn’t integrated yet, so it misinforms you. It doesn’t tell you the truth.  

For you to know the truth, you need to really listen, so to speak, deeply, directly within, where thought and emotion, feeling and will have no existence. As soon as you don’t use what doesn’t help, you’re there.

What remains is beingness, and you being it. What you are then is depth and quality, such as deep-reaching openness that has no relationship to your self or your person – at least not yet – until you are unconditionally being the quality of that deep-reaching openness and softness in the midst of what self you have, in the midst of what personality you have: not for results, and not to change anything. You’re just being what you really are in the midst of who you are.

The “what” is perfect. The “who” is imperfect. The one doesn’t need to make the other better. But when you are being the “what” in the midst of the “who,” the “who” in time becomes just like the “what,” simply by virtue of you being it. 

Your self attunes to whatever it is that you’re being in it. That’s for better or for worse. If you’re being the beingness of your conditioning, your self will get worse. If you’re being any little touch of beingness that is the same as your own being, your self eventually becomes the same, and that’s without you working on your self.  

The change occurs because your self is then in perfect company.

Q:  Thank you.