Without A Speck Of Negativity: Surrendered To What You Really Are

Q: For a long time, I have felt defeated in some way by my self and wanting it to be different. I would like your help to avoid getting so triggered and to stay in my heart.

John: Deeply surrender to using no negative phrasing within your life, inside and out.

Q: I’ve been thinking about being more positive, but that feels like pretending.

John: Not positive; just not negative. If you are positive instead of being negative, you’ll fool your self. Just simply not negative. That exposes your self.

Q: So what would that look like in my life?

John: That you won’t say anymore what you don’t like; that you won’t anymore validate the feelings of not liking something.

Q: But wouldn’t I still have those feelings?

John: And you’ll give those feelings no voice and no movement, without replacing them with the positive.

Q: What do I replace them with?

John: Being quieted. There is the difference between you and your self. You can say what you do like because that often and easily puts you into your heart. Just no longer say what you don’t like.

Q: So if I’m in the midst of feeling negative about something should I just not say anything?

John: Not even on the inside. If you say it on the inside, you’ll say it on the outside. Give it no voice and no movement. The easiest is when you give it absolutely nothing – not even a speck.

Q: In order to do that, I need to be coming from what I really am.

John: Yes, which means that any time you have a negative feeling, that’s your cue to drop deeply, within, into surrender. The deep surrender to being quieted within when any negative feeling comes up puts you into what you really are. Replace the negative with the positive, and you engage your self. You make what you’re experiencing all about your self.

Q: What if I’m in a situation where someone has done something to me that isn’t right? I feel justified in feeling negative about it.

John: Be quieted within instead of being right.

Q: So I don’t have to fix anything – just me?

John: There’s nothing to fix in you.

Q: Just to change where I’m coming from.

John: Being you instead of being your self, yes. Being you is uneventful. Being your self is all about what you like and what you don’t like, but mostly what you don’t like.

Q: If there’s a situation where I think there’s something I need to resolve, I should first come from me and then resolve the situation?

John: And forego resolving things if it means leaving you.

Q: It seems inevitable that I’m going to fall a lot. 

John: And when you do, let it be without a negative word or movement about it.

The Menstrual Cycle: An Invitation Into Your Mystery

Q: I wanted to ask you about menstruation. During that time of month, or at least the week before, I am in so much pain in my heart. Does that come from my self?

John: The different hormones moving in your body are going to put your self under pressure. So it doesn’t come from your self, it comes from the hormones. But the self that you have isn’t prepared to deal with those hormones. It brings it under pressure.

Q: Is that what creates the pain in my heart?

John: Yes. Your self is being pushed and it’s a good thing. It’s a sweet thing.

Q: So is that just a block or a weakness?

John: Yes.

Q: Is that also the opportunity?

John: Yes, so once a month you get to really deal with those things that stand in between you and your future self. Once a month you get a heads-up. This is your homework.

Q: I feel it’s something I don’t understand. Obviously on a physical level I do, but I still feel like there’s so much more happening on deeper levels.

John: Then on a deeper level be quieted within a deeper sense of what’s occurring, which will open up a vulnerability in your self.

Q: It’s just I already feel so vulnerable during that time.

John: So that’s the time of the month where you don’t want to feel vulnerable, but that’s also the time of the month where you have access into a deeper level because the mystery in you is near the surface. That’s why you feel more emotional, more vulnerable. Your self isn’t accustomed to mystery coming up. The hormones come up and the mystery comes up, and that puts your self under pressure.

So once a month you have the opportunity to deal with some of the things that you’ll need to deal with for you to come into your future self, and once a month you have the opportunity to be in the presence of your own mystery. They are opposite directions.

Q: Can you say more about the opposite directions?

John: Dealing with your self as well as with your mystery. Dealing with your self takes you out, and dealing with the mystery takes you in. Both make you vulnerable.

Q: And is it better to be more in the mystery?

John: Be in both. Be okay in the vulnerability.