April 2016 - John de Ruiter Gems

Q: My question is about love. I know to give love, and that’s easy for me around children and women, but when I’m in a deep relationship with a man it shifts and I want to receive love, which doesn’t work. I don’t understand why the giving of love stops in this way.

John: It’s also really the same with others; it just doesn’t show as much. The lack is not just there with men. It’s there with everything. For you, it just manifests more quickly with men.

If you’re being what’s deepest within, so you’re beginning within a point that’s already complete and you sustain being that, that completeness will manifest within everything in your life. It’ll manifest in every relationship.

Q: What do I have to manifest?

John: What you are. To move in life is to move in manifestation. Everyone is always manifesting. It’s what you’re being within that becomes manifest, so if you’re beginning with something that’s already complete, then completeness shows up on the surface in everything in your life because that’s what you’re coming from; that’s what you are being.

If what you’re being within is less than complete, you’ll manifest that incompleteness, in some way, in everything in your life. That incompleteness is going to show up for you within one area of your life or your self more than others. For you it shows up more in your relationship with a man but it isn’t really that, it’s just where it shows up more strongly. Wherever it shows up tells you that it is really there everywhere.

Q: So I don’t feel complete in myself and that is manifesting outside of me?

John: Yes. Not so much that you don’t feel complete, but that what you are being within is not complete. You’re beginning with something that is incomplete. The more deeply you come from within, the more that what you are being within is complete, and that shows up within everything in your self and in your life.

Q: So as a little child I was complete and I still am complete, but my thoughts tell me otherwise. Is that what you mean?

John: When what you’re being within is deeply and warmly OK as is, when you are fundamentally warmed within without anything having to be a certain way in your experience, then this depth of warmth is going to show up within all of your experience.

Q: I see. Thank you.

To listen to the audio from this meeting visit the Silkeborg, Denmark Audio Highlights page.

Q: I have some pain in my throat, chest and stomach very much of the time. I have been examined medically and nothing was found but I still experience it. Can you say anything about this?

John: If it’s not medical, then it’s your self.

Q: What do you mean?

John: That in your self you’re living out dissatisfaction, and that dissatisfaction shows up within those energy centres that you most identify with dissatisfaction. When you’re dissatisfied within your self and you remain in that, for instance in the area of communication, the tightness in your self will begin to manifest in your throat area so you can have pain in your throat without there being a medical problem. But if you continue in that, a medical problem develops.

Q: So what can I do about it?

John: Be gentled and quieted in your heart regardless of what you experience in your self and in your life. That means that your heart centre and you being in your heart matter more to you than your self and your life. When that’s how you are in your self, your self opens. When your self opens your body opens. Your body opens into depth, which allows a depth of meaning to move.

When you’re not gentled and quieted in your heart, you’ll be in some way dissatisfied with your self and your life. That shuts down a depth of movement of meaning in your self and in your life, which causes pain.

Q: So I need to be gentle and soft?

John: Deep within, yes, and quietly within, yes. When you’re gentled and quieted within, regardless of what you’re thinking and feeling and regardless of what you’re experiencing, then you’re coming from a deeper place than experience. That brings a depth of presence into your experience, so your sense of meaning comes from deep within instead of from what you’re experiencing. This opens your self and opens your body. It’s the difference between you coming from deep within and naturally expressing outwards, and you coming from the outside, trying to come in.

When your heart matters more to you than your self you will naturally be in your heart. You’ll come from your heart. That changes how you experience your self.

Q: Thank you.

To listen to the audio from this meeting visit the Silkeborg, Denmark Audio Highlights page.

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