At Home In Your Heart: The Simple Healing Of Everything

Q: Is it true that there’s no need for us to keep going back into our past experiences, into the emotions that cause us to react?

John: Yes, so in that way you don’t need to address your thinking or your feeling. You don’t need to address your emotions, your will, your self, your personality, your past. You don’t need to focus on others. 

What you return to is a most simple okayness within. The okayness isn’t an experience; it’s something that you know. You return to being okay as is: okay in the midst of your emotional body, okay concerning your relationship with anything in your past. That enables you to open, which enables you to feel and think differently than your patterned way of looking at something in your past, or your patterned way of moving in an experience.  In that way, no one really needs help concerning their interior, and no one needs counselling or therapy. 

What naturally heals is being what you really are in the midst of anything as it is. But this only works if it’s really your orientation, when it’s your orientation as awareness without result. If you do it to heal your self, you do it for your self. Anything you do for the sake of your self removes you from being what you really are. 

This is extremely simple and at the same time it really costs everything. If you follow it through in its simplicity, everything heals. It is what makes meditation work. It’s what makes counselling work. It’s what makes therapy work. When you realize that, then you can be what it is that makes anything work, without you doing anything. So it is you being what you really are that is the magicalness and the real meaning of anything. 

Q: So it’s really just our mind that’s the block from allowing us to drop down? 

John: No. There isn’t actually any block. Your own nervous system and how it’s patterned to react is not a block. The blocks in your body, your nervous system and your mind are not blocks to you being what you really are. They’re blocks to you normalizing in your experience. They can be blocks to your movement on the surface, for example a block in being able to think really well, or a block in being socially adjusted. But these blocks don’t prevent you – even in your experience of them – from being in your heart. 

Q: So the more time I spend in my heart the more at ease my nervous system will become and the more I’ll flow; I’ll just be? 

John: Yes. 

Q: And that will take care of the outside world? 

John: Yes – if you’re truly oriented to your heart. 

Q: And what exactly do you mean by that? 

John: That you’re not going to start to be in your heart so that your emotions can clear. You won’t be in your heart to move some of the blocks in your nervous system. You won’t be in your heart for any purpose. So it isn’t result-oriented. You’ll be in your heart for the sake of your heart, so then it’s genuine. It’s not conditioned on anything that’s taking place in your self. 

Q: So the seeking will stop? 

John: Yes. Then you are genuinely at home within, in the midst of anything as is. 

Q: Thank you.

What Is My Real Responsibility?

Q: I see that I often take responsibility for things which are not my responsibility. Can you help me figure out what real responsibility is in daily life?

John: Having real responsibility in your life opens when all of your responsibility belongs to the expression of what you know the truth of in your heart, when all responsibility is given to the tiny little bit, within. And as that, you’ll be choosing differently. 

Q: There are different levels inside. What about the rules in daily life? Do they all depend on the same?

John: Yes

Q: So it’s okay to break some of the rules I’ve had. It’s really hard to go against my beliefs!

John: When you’re coming from openness and softness within and you don’t yet have the experience of the deeper levels, in openness and softness you’ll be following the rules. When you’re not sure of the rules, you’ll be following openness and softness, which will manifest within the rules.

As you awaken to the deeper levels within, you awaken to your capacity to discern the levels of knowing. That moves you with the rules, within the rules, and without the rules. 

If it is without the rules, you’ll be taking care of those rules that you’re no longer upholding. You’ll have a deeper heart understanding for what you are no longer walking in. The more that you are living without the rules, the more delicate your walk. 

From within the deeper levels, openness and softness walks without the rules, with that being in its care … and with that also being without apology. 

Q: Thank you.

Goals, Happiness And Your Real Foundation

Q: We’ve been talking about the importance of life goals. I think my life needs to be the way I like it with my goals fulfilled. That’s the life I think will make me happy.

John: Are those people around you who have fulfilled their superficial, worldly goals happier than you?

Q:  I don’t know but I think I would be happier with my goals fulfilled!

John: This is important. Why do you believe that?

Q: I don’t know.

John: To your deepest wellbeing this one point is critical: don’t believe anything that you don’t know the truth of, regardless of what that may cost you. If you conclude the truth of something without knowing, that’s how you lie to your self. What you form in your thinking and feeling is an illusion. That illusion takes form through the use of your thought, your feeling, your will and your emotion, and in that way you use your self to build something that isn’t real.

Q: How can I find the real truth of what I should have in my life?

John: Begin with the tiniest little bit within that you directly know the truth of: that you were not taught, you didn’t learn, and that when you are most deeply quieted and gentled within, you know. Whatever it is that you know, believe. When you go that deeply within, what you will know is not anything made of thought and feeling, will or emotion. There are no self constructs there. What is there is beingness.

Q: So shall I do more meditation to touch this beingness?

John: You can. When you meditate and you come into deeper beingness of a depth and a quality that you directly know the truth of, then you be that depth and that quality at any personal cost. Then you are being what you know the truth of. You are concluding what you know. That may not work very well with the intensity of your plans for your life. 

As you deeply settle into believing what you know the truth of, your core beliefs will all begin to come apart because you’re not giving them your power anymore. You’re not withholding your power from them; you’re giving your power to what you directly know. As you believe what you do know the truth of, that’s where your power goes. 

Because of that shift, your core beliefs will starve to death, leaving you being the same as your being, forming your self by what you’re being in it, instead of forming it to suit your goals. 

When you form your self to suit your goals you make your self the centre of everything. Your self is your centre, making the truth within not your centre – which makes you blind.

Q: I cannot imagine a life without those things that suit my plans! If I were even able to reach that state, what would my life be like?

John: A manifestation of your being instead of a manifestation of your conditioning and your goals.

Q: But then who would I be in the world? What am I supposed to do in the world?

John: You’re starting with a false premise. You’re starting with the premise that this world is it; that whatever you’re being and doing somehow needs to fit in this world, somehow needs to look right in this world. You’re starting out with an artificial reality, which makes you artificial. 

This planet is real. Humanity matters. This world isn’t real and doesn’t matter. But you’ve taken on its precepts just because you’re in this world, and you’ve been raised by this world. You are already much like this world.

Q: Yes. I’m also affected by the thinking of my relatives, other people, my mom.  I have to think this way or they will be disappointed.

John: Then you have a serious problem. The very greatest disappointment has yet to come, which is that you’re going to die.

Q: I’m going to die? No way!

John: You’re going to terribly disappoint anyone who has something invested in you when you die. Every goal that you fulfill amounts to nothing when you die.

Q: That’s right.

John: Everything that matters in how you’ve been conditioned by this world, when you die won’t matter anymore. When you are on your last-hour deathbed, what will matter to you is not all of the goals that you’ve fulfilled. What will matter to you is not what you have become in this world. What will matter to you is not what you’ve done with your self. What will matter to you is what you’ve done with your heart, and deeper.

Q: Okay, but I’m alive and I think the material world and all those things matter to me. Of course the  heart matters to me, but both are important.

John: That’s like building a house on the beach when the tide is out. 

Q: So we just do nothing? We need to do something!

John: First, begin with a real premise. A real premise won’t be something seen, anything that this world can quantify. A real premise begins deep within your interior that isn’t subject to your upbringing. It isn’t subject to the views of this world. This premise way deep within is subject only to what you directly know the truth of. That premise is foundational to what your self and your whole life belong to. If you don’t get this right you will build believing that the tide is not coming back.

Q: So how can I start doing these things that really matter?

John: Use your doing in this world and on the surface to support what you are doing within in the unseen. So whatever you do to make money with your time, you do so that you can have food and shelter; so that you have space and time that you provide for what matters more than this world, and you use your space and your time to support what’s deepest within. In the midst of all of this doing, what you are being is this underlying premise that you directly know the truth of. You’re being it in all of your doing.

Q: I feel a long way from what you’re talking about. I don’t feel able to change how my current life is. I understand what you’re saying but I need more inner power, more help and support to follow through.

John: Then live as close as you can to someone who you know lives this. Then you’re living as close as you can to what you know is an example of this. Without the example you will keep fooling your self. If you know one, use all of your resources in all of your life – inside and out – to be as close as you can to that one.

Q: Thank you so much.

 

Your Genetic Conditioning And You

Q: Does our genetic conditioning strongly influence our life and behaviour? 

John: Where you’re not in your heart, absolutely. Where you are unconditionally in your heart, at any personal expense, no.

Q: Sometimes I think a person’s genetic imprint is what makes it so easy for them. They seem blessed with an open heart and everyone wants to be with them. Others seem to have to dig and dig. They seem to have a strong shadow and it’s not easy for them. How is this? We all have this one life! Do some come with a more golden destiny and others really have something to work through? 

John: No. The genetics that you have are the genetics that you need for you to manifest what you are as a being. It’s going to be different for each. Opening within what genetics you have draws on different streams and delicacies of your being that open up a particular movement of being. Regardless of how you experience it, your genetics, your circumstances, your upbringing, are all helping you. 

But it’s also somewhat like finding the truth in your dream life. Many dreams won’t make sense to you. They might deeply affect you, but it doesn’t matter how much you look into the dream to understand it, you can’t. Such a dream can stay with you for years. It’s because its deeper meaning is into you, and it stays in you until you get it. 

Q: I don’t want to be about my dream life anymore. How can I maintain my focus, go forward, like a ship in a storm, and not get distracted?

John: By relating to a deeper level of meaning than what comes by your mind, your thinking and your understanding, and quietly relating to these deeper levels of meaning in your dreams and in your day. 

Your real life isn’t about your surface life. We make our lives about our surface lives, but that’s not real. Your real life is your deep, quiet, inner life in the midst of your surface life, without your surface life being a distraction. Your surface life needs to be in service and in response to your deep, quiet, inner life. 

Q: So it’s about keeping these in the right balance, to serve the inner life and weave it into the physical, daily life. Are they in an eternal dialogue?

John: If you are existing from the innermost, outwards, yes. Then the outward opens and transforms, and the outward speaks the same language as the deep inward. But that’s a being kind of self instead of a genetic self.

Q: Yes, I see. So the genetics don’t matter.

John: No. You can come in with a very difficult package or a very easy package. None of it is as it appears to be. It isn’t about the easy or the difficult: it’s about what you’re being in it.