Q: My question is about how to be in the ending of a relationship. My partner has decided it’s not right for him to be with me and I’m ready to let go, to see the good in what is there between us and just to be with the pain as it is. Yet there is also the pain of desire and longing, and a feeling of not being good enough. This has happened lots of times in my life. How can I just have the goodness without having to prove that there is something wrong with the situation?..
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Q: I want to get clear about what seems like a demon that repeatedly comes in bringing pain, as if to say, “now you have to look at it.” Are there, perhaps, dark energies? How can I be with them?
John: Yes, there are dark energies and they can only work with you, influence and be a part of you when you‘re feeding your conditioning.
Q: So when I don’t feed them they have no entrance?
Q: Is it the same when there are people with this energy around them?..
Q: When physical death comes, what are the actual consequences of how we’ve used the opportunity of this life?
John: Don’t wait for that! The real consequence is that you will have forfeited your real, magnificent opportunity to evolve as awareness.
You’re in this body, you’re born in this body, you’ve come into this body and you have two different sets of form. You have the forms of your own being: these forms are true to everything of what you really are; they’re your perfect real forms...
“I am only here to empower the little bit that you know, to profoundly set things straight, to introduce healing first to the deep and inviting everything else to follow.
I am only helping where you came from, not the interests that you come here with. This isn’t going to make your life any bit better; it will only make it true, letting what counts the most count first.
What is happening here is like a wave, and inasmuch as you know it, it is really not worth wasting...
Q: The question “what am I living for?” has been with me a lot in my life. I’ve felt desperate and known I was not living. Now, there is more peace around the desperation. I know there’s truth in that, but I can relax to the point of being comfortable. You’ve talked about the sharp sincerity of love intelligently evolving. How does that come into form, and how do I be relaxed enough so that only what is true is engaged?
John: It isn’t about being relaxed enough...
Q: My daughter is the person I love most on the planet. I deeply and dearly love her and she me, but she took a partner and the moment I saw him, I saw that he has no substance. Nothing. We’ve tried to get along but I can no longer be in the same room with him. When I visit, I ask that he is not there. It’s all starting to make me ill. Even my grand-children are aware of it now and ask us to be nice to each other…
Q: Hi, John. This is the first time I’ve met you. I had a very short relationship about one and a half years ago and it’s still very painful. I can’t understand why I can’t let it go. How can I feel that love, happiness and sense of being complete within myself, and not be looking to find it outside?
John: By being gentled and quieted in your heart in the midst of such pain; by having need of nothing in the midst of such pain...
Q: Hi, John. Yesterday I heard you say that being alive in this body is the biggest opportunity to grow in awareness. I would like to know what would be helpful for me to grow in that way.
John: By you letting your evolution as awareness matter more than everything that you have: for it to matter more than your being, more than your heart, more than your self; for it to matter more than your person and your life. That opens everything you have to what you are, as awareness, and to its evolution. ..
Q: I see that I often take responsibility for things which are not my responsibility. Can you help me figure out what real responsibility is in daily life?
John: Having real responsibility in your life opens when all of your responsibility belongs to the expression of what you know the truth of in your heart, when all responsibility is given to the tiny little bit, within. And as that, you’ll be choosing differently.
Q: There are different levels inside. What about the rules in daily life?..
Q: My father has a mental health condition that’s rapidly getting worse. He’s so sweet and vulnerable in it. When I told him I was coming to this seminar he said “say a prayer for me.” I don’t know what to do for him, and I really love him. Can you help me?
John: Deeply within, enjoy what is there. Enjoy him as he loses his mind. As he loses his mind he’s able to realize differently. As he loses his mind he’s losing his old pathways, pathways that he didn’t need when his mind was good...