Your Genetic Conditioning And You

WHEN: May 31, 2018 Afternoon Open Mic

Q: Does our genetic conditioning strongly influence our life and behaviour? 

John: Where you’re not in your heart, absolutely. Where you are unconditionally in your heart, at any personal expense, no.

Q: Sometimes I think a person’s genetic imprint is what makes it so easy for them. They seem blessed with an open heart and everyone wants to be with them. Others seem to have to dig and dig. They seem to have a strong shadow and it’s not easy for them. How is this? We all have this one life! Do some come with a more golden destiny and others really have something to work through? 

John: No. The genetics that you have are the genetics that you need for you to manifest what you are as a being. It’s going to be different for each. Opening within what genetics you have draws on different streams and delicacies of your being that open up a particular movement of being. Regardless of how you experience it, your genetics, your circumstances, your upbringing, are all helping you. 

But it’s also somewhat like finding the truth in your dream life. Many dreams won’t make sense to you. They might deeply affect you, but it doesn’t matter how much you look into the dream to understand it, you can’t. Such a dream can stay with you for years. It’s because its deeper meaning is into you, and it stays in you until you get it. 

Q: I don’t want to be about my dream life anymore. How can I maintain my focus, go forward, like a ship in a storm, and not get distracted?

John: By relating to a deeper level of meaning than what comes by your mind, your thinking and your understanding, and quietly relating to these deeper levels of meaning in your dreams and in your day. 

Your real life isn’t about your surface life. We make our lives about our surface lives, but that’s not real. Your real life is your deep, quiet, inner life in the midst of your surface life, without your surface life being a distraction. Your surface life needs to be in service and in response to your deep, quiet, inner life. 

Q: So it’s about keeping these in the right balance, to serve the inner life and weave it into the physical, daily life. Are they in an eternal dialogue?

John: If you are existing from the innermost, outwards, yes. Then the outward opens and transforms, and the outward speaks the same language as the deep inward. But that’s a being kind of self instead of a genetic self.

Q: Yes, I see. So the genetics don’t matter.

John: No. You can come in with a very difficult package or a very easy package. None of it is as it appears to be. It isn’t about the easy or the difficult: it’s about what you’re being in it.

 

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