Transcripts From Location: The Netherlands
Parenting

Leading A Child Into The World Within

Q: I have a question about raising children and enjoying them in the way you’ve been describing. I have two daughters.

John: How old are they?

Q: Five and nine. I enjoyed the first child from the beginning, and it has been easy. The second is very different. From the moment she started talking, she can’t stop!

John: “Very different” in that her self is not like your self?

Q: Yes! For all three of us it is a challenge to have someone in the family who, from waking up in the morning until going to sleep, is talking…

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July 28, 2021
Relationship

Dealing With Stress In Relationship: A Softer Heart, Not A Bigger Hammer

Q: We have a lot of stress at home because my husband doesn’t have full time work. We’ve talked about how he gets himself into these situations, but he doesn’t seem to want to hear anything from me. It’s his learning, but it’s also very hard for me.

John: It’s very hard unless you make it easy.

Q: I think I should love him more rather than put pressure on him to listen to me, yet if I think he doesn’t want to listen I close my heart…

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July 14, 2021
Parenting

Teaching Children How To Handle Power

Q: I think my young son is testing boundaries, and he sometimes quite intentionally does things we’ve asked him not to do. He seems to want our reaction or response.

John: He wants to play with power, so you need to play back to him with your power.

Q: How do I do that?

John: By being in your power and really moving it, while carefully reading your child. If you use too much, you’re going to overwhelm him. If you use too little, you mistakenly empower him...

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May 19, 2021
Death

Living In The Light Of Goodness That Doesn’t Pass Away

Q: It’s been such a rich experience for me to be here with you, and I’m grateful. My question is about fear. A year ago I was treated for cancer and my heart was damaged by the radiation. No one can tell me if this will heal or how long it will take. I feel such fear and insecurity because of this. I hope you can help me.

John: You will be just fine after you die, and for sure you’re going to die. You have no real reason to be afraid of dying...

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October 14, 2020
Consciousness & Awareness

It’s Time: Responding To The Call Of Greater Reality

Q: I heard a blackbird singing and felt a little envious because he’s doing what he purely is, and he will die without complaint having done all he could. That’s what we try to accomplish, and I sensed that this is what you do. Can you tell me what is so special about being human?

John: We are the up-and-coming super-beings on the planet in waiting – in waiting because we know that we are about more than what we’re experiencing. We know more than what our selves are...

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September 2, 2020
Consciousness & Awareness

Your Body: The Gateway To Your Soul

Q: I want to talk about something I’ve been dealing with my whole life. It’s the body I’m living in – my body. Deep inside there’s such a wish to live in freedom with it, but I can’t let some things go. I’m so ashamed of my body. I treat it with diets, and had an operation some years ago.

John: Let your body be your kindest friend. Let it teach you how to be in it.

Your own body is the gateway to your soul...

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July 1, 2020
Parenting

Mothering From Your Unadorned Heart

Q: I would like to deepen the connection between me and my child, and be more aware in it. Can you help me to do that?

John: Be really seen. Reveal your heart and give your heart without embellishment, so that when you’re giving your heart, your heart given is unadorned. Then your child is fully meeting you. Don’t push your way or have your own way. Don’t use any power to have what is personal for you at your child’s expense, and at the same time be kindly strong with what you are clear about...

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May 7, 2019
Feeling & Emotion

The Way of Delicate Clarity

Q: I want to ask you about gentleness in the face of injustice or inappropriate behaviour. I’ve been told in the past that I should toughen-up, but I struggle with how to articulate with clarity when I see something that is wrong. How can I discern a true voice in that?

John: Gently go to the clarity you do have and, in the circumstance, kindly give it. While you’re in that, and after the fact from your own increasing clarity, love learning and you’ll make your way...

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April 16, 2019
Pain & Suffering

How Can I Help Others Heal?

Q: For some time I’ve been feeling that my purpose on earth is to help people heal, not as much physically as spiritually. What inside of me needs to open or develop to be able to do so?

John: You’re wanting to help people heal because you are open and sensitive to your needing healing. Your own sense in that then naturally moves toward others, but it isn’t that movement that you need to be following. It’s the first, within, that you need to be following...

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April 9, 2019
Consciousness & Awareness

Purity of Heart – The Real Gem of Consciousness

Q: It’s a rare opportunity to sit with someone like you and I’m trying to think of the best question. Is there a benefit in verbally asking a question and being answered?

John: Anything that is real is worth it.   

Q: I’ve read your book ‘Unveiling Reality’ in which you speak of your awakening and later enlightenment. I think I’ve had awakening experiences, but I’d love to know the hallmarks of awakening and enlightenment.

John: Awakening is being able to see beingness, being able to drink in beingness, being able to distinguish between beingness and everything else...

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March 5, 2019

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