The Way of Delicate Clarity

WHEN: April 26, 2013 Evening Meeting

Q: I want to ask you about gentleness in the face of injustice or inappropriate behaviour. I’ve been told in the past that I should toughen-up, but I struggle with how to articulate with clarity when I see something that is wrong. How can I discern a true voice in that?

John: Gently go to the clarity you do have and, in the circumstance, kindly give it. While you’re in that, and after the fact from your own increasing clarity, love learning and you’ll make your way. The delicate in you will become strong without losing its delicateness. As you walk in this you’ll be increasingly coming into new ability. As you move that ability, you will be bringing change into your circumstances. You’ll be changing your self.

Q: Could you guide me a bit in discerning that which is clear from that which is muddled?

John: Anything that you’re able to see that is clear – any little bit, even if it is only one subtlety within the muddle – administer that subtlety in the same way that that subtlety is in the situation.

If just one subtlety of clarity is enough for you, you’ll always find it.

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