Being More Open within, to Really Meet Without

WHEN: October 14, 2011 Evening Meeting

Q: Hi, John. Ever since I was little, I never saw that, whatever my dad was doing, that he was wrong. I just loved him so much that, whatever he was doing, I was okay with that, and I didn’t take it personally. Then my little sister was born and I don’t know why but I took it personally. I can’t open my heart to her.

John: It isn’t really her that you are not opening your heart to. It is really a deeper level of you. There is more to you than what you have found and related to in your self. There is also you in what is represented outside of your self. For you to see what your little sister is, is for you to be seeing, from within, a little bit more of you. Relating from a little bit more of you. For you to love your little sister is for you to be landed in your heart and coming from a little bit more of you. It isn’t really her; it is really you.

Q: So it is personal then?

John: The more open you are, within, the more capacity you’ll have to really meet with something outside of your self; to know, to see, to meet and to love. For you to love her includes more of you, requires more of you, within, for you to love her. If you have difficulty in loving her, your difficulty is really in opening deeper within, and realizing more of you that does really relate to knowing her, seeing her, meeting her and loving her. In this way your relationship with her shows you something of your relationship with you. In that way, how you are with her is how you are with you.

Q: I can see that.

John: Then you see her, and in seeing her, you see you. There’s much more to you than what you are used to.

Q: I used to be always on my own and figuring things out by my self.

John: That’s what you’re used to. What you are used to doesn’t represent all of you. That doesn’t represent all of reality. There’s much more to you than what you have experienced. There is much more to you than what you can see. There is much more to you than what you relate to. When you release what confines you, you come into what encompasses you. It’s slightly similar and profoundly different.

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