Relationship

Beyond Patterns and Habits: Being Real In Relationship

Q: I’m so grateful to have met you in Rishikesh. I felt some healing had happened when I stopped my practice of self-enquiry, but now I feel as if my self has come back stronger than before!

John: It’s not stronger; you just didn’t realize how strong it was. When you’re busy with a practice, the strength of your self goes into that practice. 

As you profoundly open, that opens you up to experience your self as it actually is – not as you believed it to be and not as you’ve made it to be...

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Meaning of Life

The Real Purpose Of Your Life

Q: I’m longing to know the purpose of my life.

John: You don’t need one. It’s only in your self that you’re able to even comprehend a sense of purpose. When you can be happy without any reason at all, you’re just beginning to fulfill your life’s purpose.

Anything that you do with the use of your self that gives you a sense of purpose isn’t telling you the truth.

When you can be deeply happy without any reason at all then you also realize that it doesn’t matter very much what you do in this life...

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Sexuality

Your Sexuality: The Making Of Love Or Separation

Q: Can sex be a pure expression of love? Whenever I have a relationship and it involves sex, something always goes wrong. I don’t know how to solve this.

John: By being in your sexuality without connecting the movement of your sexual energy to your self. Your sexuality belongs to your being. As long as you use it for your self, connect it to your self or reference your self in it, you keep it separate from your own being.

Your sexuality is designed so that when sexuality moves, it moves your being and when your being moves, that moves your sexuality...

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Spirituality

What’s The Right Path For Me?

Q: Four years ago I retired from work and I felt the need to travel all over the world, thinking that this was to support my spiritual journey. I’ve kept on travelling and sometimes I feel that I’m a bit lost. Can you help me find out if I’m on the right path for what I have to do?  

John: When you look into a baby’s eyes you’ll find the qualities that you’re looking for. Identify within your heart what you are seeing from your heart, and exist to embody that. ..

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Consciousness & Awareness

The Touch Of The Beloved Within


Q: I find it so helpful when you speak of openness and softness of heart, and that all I need is to access the teeniest bit. It relaxes me out of the suffering and stories in my self, yet it’s so easily forgotten. Can you speak more about it?

John: When you are gentled and quieted in your heart, all there really is is that tiny little bit that you know the truth of. That tiny little bit isn’t an understanding; it is the beginning of most delicate beingness...

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Pain & Suffering

Speaking Without Fear

Q: I’m afraid to speak in front of people. When I was a child I didn’t speak and I want to learn how to do it.

John: You have a difficulty with speaking because speaking makes you vulnerable. It makes you feel exposed and unsafe. Feeling exposed and unsafe when you speak doesn’t stop or slow you in speaking if your value in speaking is more than feeling safe. 

Be in your heart and speak from your heart. Speaking from your heart will expose your self as being smaller than your heart...

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Sexuality

From Boy To Man: Integrating Masculine Sexual Energy

Q: You’ve recently spoken about what being woman is and I’ve been wondering whether it’s really the same to be a man.  

John: At the very base of it, yes. When awareness integrates consciousness, it doesn’t just enter into being both man and woman; it enters into being everything.  

Q: That seems very easy.

John: The only thing in the universe that does not cooperate with what is natural and easy is want and need.  ..

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Death

Separation Anxiety And Our Eternal Bonds

Q: I’ve had the question for some time now about the connection I have with my husband. It’s getting deeper the longer we’re together. Then I ask myself: “What happens when we’ve been together for forty years, sharing everything, melting together? What happens when one of us dies?” I can’t let go of this thought.  I know there’s a bond between us but some parts of me just see a black hole.

John: It’s not real.

Q: I see all these traumas in the world around death and how people are when someone close dies...

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Parenting

Nurturing Your Child’s Goldenness

Q: My question is to do with my daughter. Sometimes I think I’m too judgmental and don’t accept her personality. I’m always thinking about what others think of her, wanting her to be a certain way. It’s hard for me to accept that she has her own way and personality. I love her very much but don’t know how to deal with my feelings – or her, sometimes.

John: Everything that you feel about her that is nurturing, every feeling you have for her that touches your heart, say to her without adding anything else to it, so when you start to speak, that’s not a reason for you to say everything else that you think and feel...

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Consciousness & Awareness

Your Soul’s Evolution: The Opportunity Of This Life

Q: You speak of the evolution of the soul and the opportunity of this life, and I want my soul to evolve if that’s why we’re here. Can you, first, remind me of the connection between the soul and the being? 

John: Both are unseen forms. Your being comprises form, multi-levelled form of true movement of you: of forms of love. 

Q: So the being doesn’t need to evolve? 

John: It doesn’t need to evolve, doesn’t need to develop...

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Health & Illness

On Alzheimer’s and Being Together

Questioners at two different meetings ask John about being with a loved one who is in mental decline. What’s happening, and how can we still meet and be together?

November 5, 2015 New York USA

Q: My father died of Alzheimer’s. There was a beautiful simplicity in our relationship towards the end, but where he was going, why and how were all confusing to me. Could you address mental decline and this journey towards being? He had no sense of being or meaning; he just melted away and it seemed so inhuman...

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Feeling & Emotion

At Home In Your Heart: The Simple Healing Of Everything

Q: Is it true that there’s no need for us to keep going back into our past experiences, into the emotions that cause us to react?

John: Yes, so in that way you don’t need to address your thinking or your feeling. You don’t need to address your emotions, your will, your self, your personality, your past. You don’t need to focus on others. 

What you return to is a most simple okayness within. The okayness isn’t an experience; it’s something that you know...

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