Loving Knowing – Part 1

WHEN: November 16, 2000 Afternoon Meeting

Q: Will you speak about the difference of knowing and living the truth. How can I know what the truth is?

John: You have always known it. But it is so simple that it has been easy to overlook. The very simplest of what you know is that within yourself, it is always true to soften. And that it is never true to harden. Softening within, instead of hardening within has always been your deepest truth. And the easiest to overlook. Opening and softening within, instead of closing and hardening within: that you have always known. For you to live being what you know is for you to live being that openness and that softness, within yourself.

Q: I am afraid to cause aggression or afraid to attract that. But at the same time I do attract that. I do bring it on myself.

John: How do you know that? Just because there is aggression toward you, that doesn’t mean that you are attracting it. That is a teaching. But do you know that that is absolutely true, all of the time? Do you know that or do you just believe that?

Q: I believe it. I suppose I interpret experiences of how the child is growing up. And in that interpretation, I think I know.

John: That doesn’t mean you do know.

Q: It doesn’t mean I know. Yes, I know. Means I think I know. Especially when it is kind of directed towards me. That makes me, I suppose, interpret what is.

John: You don’t have to interpret any more. You either clearly know what is happening. Or you clearly know that you only think you know what is happening. Let the two be apart without mixing them. And what you know that you just think you know – treat those as just opinions, and not as truth. And what you know that you know – give your heart away to that.

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