How To Argue Well

WHEN: July 5, 2003 Evening Meeting

Q: I don’t want to stay in my patterned ways of relating, and the best way I know is not to let arguments persist.

John: For arguments to become fewer you would have to learn to argue well. For you to learn to argue well is for you to use everything that you are in support of clarity coming through. In a good argument, no one wins but clarity.

Q: I’ve experienced that. There was no emotion; there was straightness and I was in my feet. I saw that as not standing in myself but in the inner me. Is that true?

John: Study those qualities by caring for them. In learning how to argue well you would have to develop well, developing your heart and your mind because of your eagerness to be true.

Q: What do you mean by “argue well”?

John: For you to learn to argue well you cannot use your will, either in strength or in weakness. It is just you intricately applying what you know, with all of your heart, through all of your mind. It is a skill of kindness to learn. Without it clarity cannot make its point.

It is essential to be moving in a direction of having good arguments. Love, moving through the mind, argues so well. It is all for the sake of clarity. It begins in your heart with what you know, then see that it moves through your mind without a catch – without you getting stuck. Begin with what is clear in your heart and then gently, but surely, apply it. It is about applying simplicity in complex things.

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