Healing Your Broken Heart

WHEN: June 11, 2012 Afternoon Meeting

Q: Hi, John. This is the first time I’ve met you. I had a very short relationship about one and a half years ago and it’s still very painful. I can’t understand why I can’t let it go. How can I feel that love, happiness and sense of being complete within myself, and not be looking to find it outside? 

John: By being gentled and quieted in your heart in the midst of such pain; by having need of nothing in the midst of such pain. While it seems contrary to the impulse in your self for you to survive, such beingness does reveal the deep in you.

You need the deep in you more than you need to survive. In that, pain will help you. 

 Q: Do I have to know why it is so painful?

John: What matters most is that your heart is opening and softening in the midst of the pain that you’re not understanding. That opens you and brings up the deep from within. You need that for you to really live. 

As you really live in that, you’ll be coming into heart-understanding. You will be coming into the heart-understanding that you didn’t even need, and you’ll have something to give to others. You will have heart gold to give. 

All of the pain isn’t going to hurt you, even though it hurts. If you resist the pain you’ll hurt your self and others. If you open within the pain, you will awaken to that which matters more than the pain, and you will love. 

Live that way, and when you are old you will know that others are better because you have lived. 

 

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