Q: My daughter is the person I love most on the planet. I deeply and dearly love her and she me, but she took a partner and the moment I saw him, I saw that he has no substance. Nothing. We’ve tried to get along but I can no longer be in the same room with him. When I visit, I ask that he is not there. It’s all starting to make me ill. Even my grand-children are aware of it now and ask us to be nice to each other…
Q: I’m very happy to meet you and amazed to be able to connect with you like this. My question is about relationships. I would like to know more about what happens in a couple and especially after a break-up. I broke up with a boyfriend almost two years ago, and even though psychologically I feel healed, I can feel in my body that there is something still there and I don’t understand what it is. It’s taken me a long time to let go with other break-ups, too...
Three questioners speak with John on a new online platform:
Q1: I just really wanted to ask you, John, if you would take us into, through you, what’s happening around the world. You said “truth is going viral” and I would just love to hear anything that you could say about the times that we find our selves in.
John: Well, there’s the horizontal level of this worldwide shock event of the COVID-19 virus, all that that is affecting on so many different levels, and then there is the vertical level...
Q: Some months ago I made a really brave decision and ever since then I’ve felt happy and really powerful. My heart is open most of the time. I feel love and can help a lot of people, but then there is a huge flashback into my childhood and a wave of pain – a lot of pain. I know it’s not the real me and I open to be with it, but I forget everything. Why does it still come? Will it ever go away?
John: When you have a flashback, the pain is the holding that’s there from your past...
Q: I have difficulty with difficulty! I seem to perceive life as difficult, with everything becoming a mission to be overcome, successfully. I keep thinking I’m doing things wrong and it prevents me from really enjoying life.
John: Any time that you have a problem with something it is because you, within, are out of alignment with what you truly are. As soon as you have a problem, within, then you have taken control when you don’t need it.
Q: Is there ever a time for control?..
Q: You recently said that eternity was a being. What is love?
John: Expression of eternity.
Q: What is that in relation to truth?
John: Truth is the stillness of it and love is the movement of that.
Q: How do they become one?
John: They are one.
Q: How can movement and stillness be one?
John: Stillness moving. Stillness moving is true movement, quality movement. That’s what makes a tree so lovely: the stillness that is in its movement, its quality of movement; the stillness that is in its embrace...
Q: We’d like to get married soon. Can you speak to us about marriage?
John: Marriage is like a soup bone.
Q: Is like a what?
John: A soup bone. When you’re completely still in it and not making it about your self, you get thoroughly cooked. Every little thing comes out to be cooked.
If you’re not open to have everything within yourself get completely cooked, then marriage won’t work...
Q: I find it so helpful when you speak of openness and softness of heart, and that all I need is to access the teeniest bit. It relaxes me out of the suffering and stories in my self, yet it’s so easily forgotten. Can you speak more about it?
John: When you are gentled and quieted in your heart, all there really is is that tiny little bit that you know the truth of. That tiny little bit isn’t an understanding; it is the beginning of most delicate beingness...
Q: You’ve recently spoken about what being woman is and I’ve been wondering whether it’s really the same to be a man.
John: At the very base of it, yes. When awareness integrates consciousness, it doesn’t just enter into being both man and woman; it enters into being everything.
Q: That seems very easy.
John: The only thing in the universe that does not cooperate with what is natural and easy is want and need. ..
Q: You speak of the evolution of the soul and the opportunity of this life, and I want my soul to evolve if that’s why we’re here. Can you, first, remind me of the connection between the soul and the being?
John: Both are unseen forms. Your being comprises form, multi-levelled form of true movement of you: of forms of love.
Q: So the being doesn’t need to evolve?
John: It doesn’t need to evolve, doesn’t need to develop...
Q: We’ve been talking about the importance of life goals. I think my life needs to be the way I like it with my goals fulfilled. That’s the life I think will make me happy.
John: Are those people around you who have fulfilled their superficial, worldly goals happier than you?
Q: I don’t know but I think I would be happier with my goals fulfilled!
John: This is important...
Q: Hello John. I first encountered you a few months ago when I heard a tape of yours on the subject of cancer. At the time I was very struck by the beauty and truth of your responses. Cancer wasn’t an issue for me then, but it is now. I feel a sense of unreality about it because sometimes I feel very well and optimistic about the outcome on a physical level, but recently there have been times when the pain has been excruciating and I no longer feel optimistic…