CONVERSATIONS WITH JOHN DE RUITER

This site hosts a collection of John de Ruiter’s teachings, many published for the first time and only available here.
The dialogues took place at international events, meetings, open mic and social gatherings, and the College of Integrated Philosophy’s Jewel Café. 

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Consciousness & Awareness

What Is My Real Responsibility?

Q: I see that I often take responsibility for things which are not my responsibility. Can you help me figure out what real responsibility is in daily life?

John: Having real responsibility in your life opens when all of your responsibility belongs to the expression of what you know the truth of in your heart, when all responsibility is given to the tiny little bit, within. And as that, you’ll be choosing differently. 

Q: There are different levels inside. What about the rules in daily life?..

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Meaning of Life

Goals, Happiness And Your Real Foundation

Q: We’ve been talking about the importance of life goals. I think my life needs to be the way I like it with my goals fulfilled. That’s the life I think will make me happy.

John: Are those people around you who have fulfilled their superficial, worldly goals happier than you?

Q:  I don’t know but I think I would be happier with my goals fulfilled!

John: This is important...

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Consciousness & Awareness

Your Genetic Conditioning And You

Q: Does our genetic conditioning strongly influence our life and behaviour? 

John: Where you’re not in your heart, absolutely. Where you are unconditionally in your heart, at any personal expense, no.

Q: Sometimes I think a person’s genetic imprint is what makes it so easy for them. They seem blessed with an open heart and everyone wants to be with them. Others seem to have to dig and dig. They seem to have a strong shadow and it’s not easy for them...

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Meaning of Life

Goals, Happiness And Your Real Foundation

Q: We’ve been talking about the importance of life goals. I think my life needs to be the way I like it with my goals fulfilled. That’s the life I think will make me happy.

John: Are those people around you who have fulfilled their superficial, worldly goals happier than you?

Q:  I don’t know but I think I would be happier with my goals fulfilled!

John: This is important...

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Health & Illness

Cancer: Your Beloved Teacher

Q: Hello John. I first encountered you a few months ago when I heard a tape of yours on the subject of cancer. At the time I was very struck by the beauty and truth of your responses. Cancer wasn’t an issue for me then, but it is now. I feel a sense of unreality about it because sometimes I feel very well and optimistic about the outcome on a physical level, but recently there have been times when the pain has been excruciating and I no longer feel optimistic…

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Consciousness & Awareness

Making Ready For Ultimate Truth

Q: I am ready for the ultimate truth.

John: What makes you ready is you being gentled and quieted in your heart, unconditionally, in every relationship you have with everything, everyone, and your self – all of that at any personal expense. It readies you for what is ultimate because it clears you of everything that isn’t ultimate. That level of deep inner quietude, in the midst of anything, cleans you of your beliefs, your core beliefs. It cleans you of your subconsciousness.

Q: For a character like me that sounds very challenging...

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