CONVERSATIONS WITH JOHN DE RUITER

This site hosts a collection of John de Ruiter’s teachings, many published for the first time and only available here.
The dialogues took place at international events, meetings, open mic and social gatherings, and the College of Integrated Philosophy’s Jewel Café. 

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Relationship

How Can I Be With My Angry Father?

Q: A few years ago I decided not to see my father anymore. Sometimes I feel it’s not okay to say “no” to your father, but it has also given me huge peace. I’m scared of getting caught in this father/daughter story again when I go home, but I’ve also realized that I don’t need love from my parents. I don’t know whether to see him now, or not.

John: Whether you see him or not, it needs to be warm. Then not seeing him or seeing him is not because of any kind of issue...

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Feeling & Emotion

Openness: Your Love, Your Life

Q: I feel stuck in my patterns. They just keep coming back and back.

John: Your patterns will move because of the energy that’s stored in them. It doesn’t matter what patterns you have. All that matters is that despite anything at all that moves, you open.

Q: Being open is the thing that frightens me most. It’s helpful to hear that it’s not a question of what happened in your childhood, or the relationship you had with your parents; that you have the power to just open and … 

John: And that’s it!..

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Enlightenment & Awakening

The Responsibility Of A Lifetime

“I am only here to empower the little bit that you know, to profoundly set things straight, to introduce healing first to the deep and inviting everything else to follow.

I am only helping where you came from, not the interests that you come here with. This isn’t going to make your life any bit better; it will only make it true, letting what counts the most count first.

What is happening here is like a wave, and inasmuch as you know it, it is really not worth wasting...

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Enlightenment & Awakening

The Responsibility Of A Lifetime

“I am only here to empower the little bit that you know, to profoundly set things straight, to introduce healing first to the deep and inviting everything else to follow.

I am only helping where you came from, not the interests that you come here with. This isn’t going to make your life any bit better; it will only make it true, letting what counts the most count first.

What is happening here is like a wave, and inasmuch as you know it, it is really not worth wasting...

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Consciousness & Awareness

It’s Time: Responding To The Call Of Greater Reality

Q: I heard a blackbird singing and felt a little envious because he’s doing what he purely is, and he will die without complaint having done all he could. That’s what we try to accomplish, and I sensed that this is what you do. Can you tell me what is so special about being human?

John: We are the up-and-coming super-beings on the planet in waiting – in waiting because we know that we are about more than what we’re experiencing. We know more than what our selves are...

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Death

Your Death: The Last And Greatest Event Of Your Life

Q: How can I deal with the fear of death when thinking about hard decisions?

John: By, in all of your life, intimately and in dearness, carrying your death in your heart. It heals all aversion to death, all fear of death. 

Your death is the last and the greatest event of your life. Your death is deeply important. It’s deeply important that you’re available to it. It’s deeply important that you are really there for whenever you die, and regardless of how you die...

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