Transcripts on Pain & Suffering

Bad Meinberg

How Can I Help Myself During a Panic Attack?

Q: Lately I have been having panic attacks. I’ve had anxieties as long as I can remember and I feel I’ve trained my nervous system this way. I wish I could let go more and relax, like a child in her mother’s arms. Can you help me with what to do when this panic comes up in daily life, when I’m at work or with other people? It scares me.

John: Your nervous system in distress is like your child. As that’s occurring you are like your child’s deeply quieted mother and, as that, your distressed child looks to you and listens to you...

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Australia

Evolving In The Midst Of Bipolar Disorder

Q: For some time now I’ve experienced strong bipolar episodes. I don’t want to be a victim and I do accept responsibility, but their impact is so intense and they throw me so far from my self, I feel that I don’t have my independence anymore. There’s a relentless inevitability and I wonder what to do about it.

John: You suffer from what, in a tropical climate, is called hurricane season.

The seasons that you pass through don’t stop you from being what you first are...

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Canada

How Can I Experience Forgiveness?

Q: I feel so much pain in my heart. Can you speak of how to experience forgiveness?

John: By never, ever being hard on your self again.  

Q: How do you do that?

John: By never judging yourself based on anything that you’ve ever learned, never judging yourself based on anything that you’ve ever believed; by letting your whole heart be totally naked, and letting it stay naked.

Q: It stays naked by not reacting to the mind’s thoughts?..

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Canada

Accept Your Trauma and Have No Drama

Q: I wanted to talk to you about trauma.

John: Trauma or drama? Drama creates trauma. Trauma is the damages of drama.

Q: I see myself playing with it, and it starts because of feeling that I can’t feel this feeling. I resist feelings and hate the world.

John: Not being able to feel, that’s the trauma that’s the result of the drama. Drama causes damage such as not being able to feel. When you do have trauma, don’t add to it any drama…

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Denmark

Meeting Pain in Your Body from Your Heart

Q: I have some pain in my throat, chest and stomach very much of the time. I have been examined medically and nothing was found but I still experience it. Can you say anything about this?

John: If it’s not medical, then it’s your self.

Q: What do you mean?

John: That in your self you’re living out dissatisfaction, and that dissatisfaction shows up within those energy centres that you most identify with dissatisfaction. When you’re dissatisfied within your self and you remain in that, for instance in the area of communication, the tightness in your self will begin to manifest in your throat area so you can have pain in your throat without there being a medical problem…

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Canada

Quietly Visionary

Q: I have insomnia now for four years, and I was wondering if there’s anything that I can do in my daily life to positively contribute to falling asleep, instead of me relating to tension and stress, to see that there’s an opportunity to open. We’re living in such a crazy world and the only way for me to relate to it is to relate to what I know in me. What can I do to step up? Instead of me being able to relate to difficulty as an opportunity for me to open, there are moments that I would like to walk away…

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Lage Vuursche

Rested in Your Heart Despite an Agitated Nervous System

Q: I’ve had some insights and experiences in the past but I forget. Then there is in daily life this identification again with emotions, thoughts. Maybe you can say something about this.

John: Your difficulty is quite understandable. If you had no forms, if you didn’t have a body and a self, you wouldn’t have the constant reflection back to you. You would be unstructured awareness. All of your forms enable you to experience what you are in form, but if that form draws you into its structures it necessarily draws you into an experience…

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Canada

Delicateness of Being in the Midst of Emptiness

Q: I’ve found some real clarity around how I’ve used my intelligence to create this philosophy of working on my self and growing and healing. I see that there’s goodness in that and I also see how I’ve used it to be less than what I am. I choose to use experiences and relationships to minimize discomfort. I’m seeing emptiness in everything.

John: Emptiness is a wonderful bed for you to lie down in and to enter realization. As awareness, lying down in emptiness has you realizing the presence of all of the collectibles in your heart and realizing that on a heart level you don’t need them…

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Cologne

Your Heart Needs No Protection

Q: To me it looks as if I have to protect my heart and then I cannot find my own way to the heart. It looks that I need this protection.

John:  You didn’t have the protection first. You didn’t have the protection when you were much lovelier. The more protection that you have over your heart, the less that you have your heart. Without the protection, you have your heart, you’re in your heart, and, in that, you are in everything. With the protection you are no longer in everything…

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Calgary

About Acne and Depression

Q: Since I was very young I have struggled with depression and acne and bowel problems and the more I question my thoughts and the deeper I go the worse it gets. It just seems my self is getting a lot harder and I don’t really know what to do.

John: First be okay with all of that just the way it is. Instead of just having some problems, you are absorbed by your problems.

Q: I’ve always thought that there was like a mind-body connection and the more the thoughts and questions, the worse it gets…

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