Deepening the Connection Between You and Your Child

WHEN: September 13, 2011 Evening Meeting

Q: Hello, John. I would like to deepen the connection between me and my child and my being aware of it, so I’d like it if you would help me to do that.From the September 13, 2011 evening meeting with John de Ruiter in Amsterdam, The Netherlands

John: Be really seen. Reveal your heart and give your heart without embellishment, so that, when you’re giving your heart, your heart given is unadorned. Then your child is fully meeting you.

Don’t push your way or have your own way. Don’t use any power to have what is personal for you at your child’s expense, and at the same time, be kindly strong with what you are clear about.

All of this draws your child into being seen, being heard, and not using any power to do so, inviting your child into a strength of clarity. With a richness of heart, make it really easy for your child to never need to lie.

Value a quiet love, enabling your child to read you deeply. Then there’s room for supportive excitement.

When you’re agitated in any way, like being slow to speak, and when you’ve fallen short in any way, like being quick to speak.

If you are happy in all of this, your child will be deeply safe and free to be seen in everything.

Don’t try to correct your child or give instruction if at the same time you are not being seen. If you are being seen, your child will love learning from you.

In the midst of your availability, share your realizations, and your child will come into the same.

If you are always giving your heart while being seen, giving your heart in a quieted way without embellishment, your heart being given unadorned, your child will know that it doesn’t have to do anything for love.

Your child will grow up not being performance oriented.

Don’t be overly motherly and your child will have no need of being childish.

Q: Thank you.

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