Accept Your Trauma and Have No Drama

WHEN: November 22, 2004 Evening Meeting

Q: I wanted to talk to you about trauma.

John: Trauma or drama? Drama creates trauma. Trauma is the damages of drama.

Q: I see myself playing with it, and it starts because of feeling that I can’t feel this feeling. I resist feelings and hate the world.

John: Not being able to feel, that’s the trauma that’s the result of the drama. Drama causes damage such as not being able to feel. When you do have trauma, don’t add to it any drama. Trauma heals; drama doesn’t heal. Love healing. When you love healing, there is no more drama.

Q: The resistance…just be with that?

John: When the resistance comes up, find the trauma while having no drama. Behind the resistance there is sensitivity to trauma. When you have damaged yourself because of drama, you’ll be naturally sensitive to that damage which does show up as resistance. Distinguish between being obstinate and the protection of something that has been damaged; obstinate in being stubborn and being dramatically resistant. Distinguish between dramatic resistance and the protection within of something that has suffered damage. Remove the drama from the trauma, then there’s healing. Protecting what has been damaged is understandable. Enjoy being understandable.

Q: Is it ok to protect something that has been damaged?

John: Yes. It is also okay to remain being open in the midst of what is damaged. Protection and openness are a balance.

Q: How to protect?

John: With openness. Accept your trauma and have no drama. As you feel, you will heal.

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